It’s never going to be the way you expect, it can’t be, seriously not. Think about it, although that’s a major component in anything actually not turning out as you expect. It’s not to say that getting close to expectation is totally out of reach, but even that carries with it a degree of dissatisfaction and disappointment.
Living without expectation for the majority of us is impossible. What is there to live for without the expectation that our individual existence will have ongoing continuance? It’s very beat by beat forward momentum assured. Throw in a tsunami of other expectations about self and others, about things that are always beyond our control. Without realizing or knowing, awareness of what basic life could or should be is jettisoned before any chance of take-off.
Most people live their whole lives with a gnawing awareness that their lives are full of dissatisfaction, yet expecting things to get better the longer they live. We fill time with expensive expectations, only to find emptiness. Longing and dawning shallowness can emerge as each aging milestone clunks over.
What’s the only expectation we are collectively entitled to, only inevitable sure expectation? What’s the only should have and can have expectation, instantly accessible moment by moment? That we will all die.
That’s it, that’s all it takes, to remove, sanitise and sterilize all those time consuming and in most cases irrelevant expectations. Deep awareness and acceptance of death before its happening has a by-product of putting everything in perspective, from that position. A diagnosis of impending death, certifiable surety, has the capacity for accelerating that perspective way beyond what we can mundanely think in our avoidance and fear of death normal day to day states.
Being becomes the unavoidable reality in the reality of what is coming to us all. For those who are ‘lucky’ to have time at the end of their life, being takes absolute precedence over expectations. Being reverse kick starts expectations into the order they really should be.
Do no harm, love for all beings and appreciate, become just a few expectations that arise as commonalities.
Learn now before it’s virtually too late. That’s the lesson that those, who are where we all will be, can simply teach.
Start simply being aware. Stop expecting more than our collective common basic needs.
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